People are constantly asking us when we're gonna have kids since before we even got married. We're still very young but we're getting older and our friends, Co-workers and old classmates are popping out kids left and right, of course we feel pressured to have a baby! Don't get me wrong, we both want kids so bad its unreal but there are more steps we have to take before we even consider kids.
I've loved the idea of a baby since I was 15. No, I wasn't taking the necessary steps needed to have a baby nor did I physically want a child. However, I knew id be a great mom and I had so much love in my heart that I wanted to give to a precious baby. I also wanted the "needed to be needed" feelin. Luckily momma didn't raise no fool (haha) so I didn't do anything to put everything in action.
Curt is fantastic with kids! They love him and he loves them. No doubt in my mind that he'd be a terrific daddy...
We've talked about kids many many times. We also realize that since my skin doesn't stretch like the average persons, it'd be very painful, risky and maybe life threatening for me to carry a baby for 9 months. Plus my body does good just to keep itself healthy, muchless another human! To my knowledge there has never been a woman with harlequin ichthyosis have a baby... And as much as I love proving the doctors, science, statistics and sometimes even myself wrong, I'm not able to risk another humans health/life just because we want a baby.
It breaks my heart to know that I can't give my husband the one thing he wants more than anything in the world. It almost makes me feel like less if a woman.. I know Curt would never want me to put me or our unborn child in harms way. He's very understanding about everything of course, what else would you expect from the best husband ever?
We're very much considering adoption. We checked out the criteria and everything so maybe one day we'll have our own little angel... Gonna do a little praying and money-saving and see how everything goes! For now, our little angel has four legs and devours food when I drop it. :) Ole Max!
Hey my name is Jordan, I have Ichthyosis en Confetti! I am 23 and married, and we talk a lot about kids too :) I have heard from numerous people with Ichthyosis that when the are pregnant their skin is the best it has ever been. I am assuming from the vitamins and extra hormones. Have you ever been to one of the family conferences? Email me back incase I don't get notified of you replying to this jmbrooks89@gmail.com
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